Warning Signs Your Aging Parents Need Help

Posted by on Sep 8, 2010 in Health Signals |

When you first suspect that your aging parents may be experiencing health or mobility issues, it can come as a shock both to you and to them.  Knowing some warning signs and steps to take can help you all prepare to handle the changes that are coming. 

Many seniors can still manage the activities of daily living with little or no assistance.  But advancing age can mean that some will need help with housekeeping, home maintenance, and transportation. Others may need more attention because of acute or chronic health problems.

The PARENT acronym may help draw your attention to how your parents are functioning in their everyday lives.

hysical. Do Mom or Dad still have enough energy for daily activities? Have you noticed any changes in their gait or balance? Weight loss?

A  ppearance. In particular, notice hygiene. If Dad was always a sharp dresser, but his tie is now stained with soup, his vision could be affected – or he might be having more serious problems that need medical attention.

R ambling.  People at any age can ramble in conversation. But if you notice that your mother is not making sense, or your dad loses track easily during a chat, it could be an early warning sign of depression, reaction to medications, or other serious disorders, such as dementia.

E nvironment. When you visit, note whether the house is as clean or tidy as usual. Is there food in the fridge and cupboard?  This can mean they have poor nutrition or are ill, or are having trouble coping with housekeeping and cooking.

N = eNgaged.  Are your parents still pursuing their favorite activities and attending church or social functions?  Or do you notice them withdrawing socially? If so, use this observation to open a conversation about their daily lives and what you both may be noticing. 

T  ransportation. Are your parents able to get around easily? Are you seeing poor driving skills? If they are not driving, are public transport or other options available to get them where they want or need to go? Taking a drive with them gives you a chance to notice their reflexes, and how they handle parking and traffic in general. This is a sensitive topic, so you may want to seek advice on how to approach the subject.

Adapted  from “Boomers and their aging parents” by Maureen Osis in Expert Women who Speak – Speak Out. (Vol.  3), 2003


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